Do You Believe in Love?
Love, what a word. It defines a range of things, from an admiration to food, a song, a piercing, to even someone special to you. It can be a scary thing to use and it's something that can make you happy and sad all in one. For me I've had a real range of situations with love, from friendships to relationships it's a confusing time really. I thought I'd talk through the issues of love, for me a lot of this is a lesson that I'm still learning but I'd thought I would talk about what to do when you like someone who doesn't feel the same way.
It's hard, you get so many feelings that can't hide away until you get your answer. I have spent months liking people without ever saying anything, as the fear of being rejected builds up. Especially as a teenager they want to be with someone or like someone was heightened and oh my everything feels like the worst thing to ever happen. I remember feeling head over heels for people that really didn't deserve me or my time. What I learnt along the way are a few life lessons, so let's crack on a bit more with them.
It's okay for them not to like you
It's a part of life and that doesn't make it okay but it's something that will happen, they may not feel the same way about you but there is someone out there that likes you honestly! When you get rejected it feels like a ton of bricks hitting you, but it's a part of life and often you'll look back months later and see a change in feelings towards the person
You need to open up about it to the person
It's not good to keep it to yourself, yes it avoids rejection but it also lets your mind build on these feelings to the point where they get intense. And if you do sadly get rejected it can feel more intense the longer you wait it out. I fancied someone for a strong 2 months and I felt my world come crashing down. It took me a bit of time to recover but now looking back I'd wish I'd spoke about it earlier.
Look at it from a different perspective
When you like someone it's very easy to ignore the red flags, they become invisible and unnoticeable. It's always good to think about it from another perspective, imagine your friend liked someone but hadn't mentioned it to them and there were things that had gone on. Sometimes they just aren't the person for you but it's hard to admit that when you like them for so many reasons but it has to be done no matter what.
There we have it, it's a weird life lesson to learn and it sucks and it gets emotional but it has to be done in order to grow as a person. For me, I believe that there's someone out there for me, and I'm ready to love someone but there's still plenty of people out there that aren't right for me and it's just about finding your way through those people.
Until next time, Chloe!
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